This weekend I celebrate binge watching Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix resulting in a simple yet powerful takeaway about leading others.
As one who follows, I appreciate a leader who recognizes and believes in who I am and what I’m capable of and provides encouragement to help me continue to better myself.
As one who leads, at my best I don’t parent, teach, or mentor with an “or else” attitude. At my best I help people build on what they have as well as their potential.
At my worst, as both leader and follower I tear down others or myself, and like Bailey did in this episode, I set the scene where others and/or myself are “running from” someone or something instead of “running to” what they can achieve as well as who they can become.
Webber explains that if you want people to run 4 minute miles, you don’t give them something to run from; you give them something to run to. You get to know them and let them get to know you, and you show them you believe in them and help them see how and when to use their brains.
Because leaders aren’t all or nothing, I must also realize that as an adult I need to make sure my mindset is focused on what I’m running to more than focused on what I’m running from. So much depends on perspective, mindset, and attitude. So much depends on my takeaway.
Grey’s Anatomy, Season 12, Episode 2 http://www.hulu.com/watch/851628
BAILEY: If this is my first day, then I don’t deserve a second. I wanted it to go…
WEBBER: Perfectly. It won’t. It can’t. This job is too much for one person.
BAILEY: You did it.
WEBBER: Because I listened to those who came before me and counted on those under me.
BAILEY: I tried…
WEBBER: No, you barked like a general. They are generals. They know how to mobilize. What they need is a leader. If I did my job well, it’s not because people listened to me; it’s because they believed in me, believed that I knew them well enough and believed in them enough to tell them how and when to use their brains. I’m talking about people like you. That kind of belief–you have to earn it, and you cannot earn it in a day. You want someone to run a 4 minute mile. You don’t chase them. You don’t give them something to run from; you give them something to run to.